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The Psychology of Heaven

 Discerner of the thoughts and intents of the heart. 

Hebrews 4:12


Updated: Feb 17

"Well, here we are, cruising our way into the new year! I thought it's high time I give you a sneak peek into what's happening in my world. Being a online therapist, it's easy to fall into the trap of presenting this façade like we have it all figured out. Truth be told, that composure is precisely what a client needs when dealing with deep wounds or just searching for a sounding board to navigate their troubles. No one wants a neurotic therapist!

Believe it or not, I wasn't always this intrigued by psychology. It took my own healing journey to spark that interest. It's funny how life works; my career in counselling felt like a divine instruction from God. Initially, I thought He nudged me towards a degree in Theology, but circumstances threw me back into counselling training. The twists and turns have been nothing short of surprising.

Doors swung open at lightning speed after that, and I've grown in every possible way, even under the toughest circumstances. Picture this: completing two separate intensive courses, facing a divorce, and a year later, my brother gets hit with a cancer diagnosis. That led to me relocating and setting up a private practice to support him through treatments.

I'm sharing all this because, in my own therapy sessions, I've found the most helpful moments are when my therapist shares a bit of vulnerability while holding onto mine.

There's something comforting about knowing the person you're pouring your heart out to isn't perfect but is right there on your journey as an ally and knows what you are going through. It's been crucial to my own journey of maturity.

Why does this matter so much? Well, difficulties and sadness have an isolating effect.

Then comes the belief that 'everyone else' is doing way better than us, making us feel alone in our struggles. Having someone who understands my battles while navigating their own is a source of comfort. Our issues might be different, but our humanity ties us together.

And guess what? It's my clients who are the unsung heroes in my growth as a therapist. No two individuals are the same, and the ability to work with each person uniquely is what makes my job thrilling. It's like peeling back the layers of God's masterpiece in every interaction.

How are you going into your second month of the year? With the same hope the new year brought or less enthusiasm?

Are thinking about about talking to someone? If so here are 5 top tips for finding a therapist that is right for you.

1. Define Your Needs and Goals:

Before beginning your search, take some time to reflect on what you hope to achieve through therapy. Clearly define your goals and identify the specific issues or concerns you want to address. This clarity will help you find a therapist with expertise in the areas or online that are most relevant to your needs.

2. Research Specializations and Approaches:

Therapists often have different specializations and use various therapeutic approaches. Research the different types of therapy, such as cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT), psychodynamic therapy, or humanistic therapy. Additionally, consider whether you need a therapist with expertise in specific areas, such as trauma, relationship issues, or anxiety.

It's okay not to know! Many therapists offer FREE 20 minute sessions for you to ask questions and discover what you need to start (I do it helps me connect to with my potential clients).

3. Explore Technology Options:

In today's digital age, therapy is not limited to in-person sessions. Many therapists offer virtual or online therapy sessions, providing flexibility for those with busy schedules or accessibility challenges. If you prefer remote sessions, inquire about a therapist's willingness and ability to conduct therapy through secure online platforms.

4. Inquire About Therapeutic Style:

Different therapists have distinct therapeutic styles and methods. Some may be more directive and provide structured guidance, while others adopt a more exploratory and reflective approach. Think about what style resonates with you and aligns with your preferences for personal growth and problem-solving.

5. Trust Your Instincts:

Ultimately, trust your instincts when selecting a therapist. Pay attention to your initial impressions during consultations or initial sessions. If you feel comfortable, understood, and respected, it's a positive sign. If, however, you sense discomfort or a lack of connection, it's okay to explore other options. Trusting your intuition can guide you towards the therapist who best aligns with your needs.

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